“Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent than the one derived from fear of punishment.“
I was recently told of an African tribe that does the most beautiful thing.
When someone does something hurtful and wrong, they take the person to the center of town, and the entire tribe comes and surrounds him. For two days, they tell the man every good thing he has ever done.
The tribe believes every human being comes into the world as GOOD, each of us desiring safety, love, peace, happiness.
But sometimes in the pursuit of those things, people make mistakes. The community sees misdeeds as a cry for help.
They band together for the sake of their fellow man to hold him up, to reconnect him with his true Nature, to remind him who he really is, until he fully remembers the truth from which he’d temporarily been disconnected: “I AM GOOD.”
I looked up the definition of the word “good” and I was most interested to find words like: “being positive or desirable in nature, worthy of respect, honorable, benevolent and kind.” These definitions aren’t based in moralistic judgment, but rather, decribe “good” as a natural expression of the miracle within us all. Perhaps we should be more like this African tribe and focus on each other’s authentic inner beauty and not our flaws.
Then, rather than using our personal power to overpower, manipulate and control through punishment, criticism and anger, we can use our power to empower and inspire others to rise to new levels of natural “goodness” through acknowledgment, praise and love.