“Life is fair. What you put out comes back to you.”

Martha Borst

Vibration and Energy

It is a scientifically proven premise that everything in the universe consists of energy. Energy is the unseen force that somehow helps us change, grow, and accomplish what we want in life. There are various ways people choose to put a name to this power. Some include energy, spirit, love, God, chi, life force, Allah, Buddha, light, universal consciousness, the Great Spirit, the Divine. (In order to respect all beliefs, I will say Universe. When I do, please insert your own belief.)

Energy, which comprises positive and negative forces (God/Devil, light/darkness, love/hatred, etc.) constantly reacting to one another (attracting and repelling), is always in a state of movement or vibration. Vibration can be measured in two ways:

  1.  Frequency—which is the speed and rate of vibration.
  2. Amplitude—which is the power or strength of the vibration.

In order to understand how we can use this information to attract what we want in our lives, let’s look at a simple example of how the Law of Attraction works with energy, vibration, frequency, and amplitude.

A radio transmits radio waves into the atmosphere. These waves are broadcast at different vibration frequencies (cycles per second) and at different volume levels (amplitude). The station on your radio dial that vibrates at the same frequency picks up the vibration waves.

In other words, the receiver and the station attract one another because they have the same vibration frequency, or it is said that they are in vibration resonance. As you turn the dial on your radio, you notice there is a point at which the radio picks up the station broadcast and the sound is very clear.

That is vibration resonance (alignment/synchronicity).

However, the radio needs to be in a geographical range that can pick up the broadcast signal. If the signal (amplitude) is very strong and loud, then it can, of course, register and be heard at a greater distance. If the amplitude is not powerful enough to travel the distance to the receiver, then the message will not come through, even if they are on the same vibration frequency.

It should also be noted, it is impossible to tune into a radio station (the broadcaster) unless the dial is positioned so the radio (receiver) is in vibration resonance with the frequency of the broadcast. The message simply cannot be heard because there is no attraction.

Only vibrations that are in harmony or alignment (in resonance) with each other can respond to each other.

Since everything in the universe is energy, then thought is energy, ideas are energy… words, circumstances, emotions, things, people, etc. are all energy. Energy is always vibrating, and the vibrations occur at different frequencies.

We humans generate, create, and cause many things to happen by focusing our energy. We focus “on” something, such as a goal, for instance. All our attention (our thoughts, actions and feelings) go towards it. If we stay focused, we will achieve what we set out to accomplish. If we let our attention stray and allow ourselves to focus on something else, then we get “sidetracked” and we miss the goal. It soon becomes clear that we attract to ourselves whatever is in resonance (vibration/harmony) with the focus of our attention.

We focus our attention through our thinking (our beliefs and assumptions). Every thought (which is energy) has its own frequency and attracts back to us whatever resonates in harmony with that frequency. We strengthen our thoughts by concentrating on them and by energizing them with powerful emotions. In so doing, we raise the amplitude. Therefore, the stronger the emotion, the more powerful is the vibration message, which will connect to the Universe/God.

Our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, assumptions, beliefs and behaviors (our CONTEXT) are all frequencies we are constantly transmitting. The most powerful of these are our thoughts, because everything else is a direct result of and affected by our thoughts.

We end up with the results we have in our lives (CONTENT) because we attract it into our experience by the focus of our attention. Since we can only attract that with which we vibrate harmoniously, nothing comes into our lives uninvited or by “accident”.

We get what we get in life because of the Law of Attraction. When we fully understand this, then we can consciously understand how to deliberately create what we want.

Prayer and meditation are ways of managing thoughts and energy. They can be very helpful in terms of letting go of negative thoughts and limiting thoughts that might attract the very things we don’t want. We are all human. We all have negative thoughts, and since whatever we think about becomes a part of a vibration field that transmits and attracts something back to us, we can easily attract the things we say we don’t want.

When you have negative thoughts, don’t resist them because that only focuses more attention and energy on them, which automatically includes them in the vibration field. Just notice them, acknowledge them and release any emotional energy you may have on them (this is why forgiveness is so powerful) and let them pass on through.

Remember: we create by focusing our energy on something, so always focus on what you DO want, not on what you don’t want. Focusing on the negatives will certainly attract more negatives into your life. They will come not because life is unfair, or because you are unlucky, or because bad things always seem to happen to you, but because you’ve focused your attention on the negative.

We create through focused attention and we attract negatives because we resonate at the same vibration as them. As all powerful religions of the world realize:

Sustained, focused thought is the most powerful vibration there is on the planet.

Prayer, meditation, and “pure” thoughts are powerful! Conversely, if you don’t choose the thought on which you want to focus, you create by default. Not choosing is choosing. If you do nothing to deliberately or consciously create things the way you want them, if you do nothing to take responsibility for the way you choose to think, then you are at the mercy of chance/luck.

It is our responsibility to be in control of our energy and if we don’t control our own energy, then the people who control their own energy will create for us simply by the power of their influence. Therefore, other people, outside events, circumstances, etc. will determine our thoughts, beliefs and behaviors. If we don’t consciously choose the thoughts we want to transmit to the Universe/God, then we have little control over our lives.


 Life IS fair. What you put out comes back to you.

Assignment: Design a Creation Box. Find a shoe box and decorate it beautifully. Make it look like a present. Make sure you can open the lid. Inside, place pictures of whatever you want (you can have several things). Put each picture on a card and describe (in detail) the thing you want. Add emotional feeling in your description. Place the card or cards in the box.

Every day, open the box and read the card(s). Focus on the thing you want with intensity. See a clear picture of it in your mind. See it in your life. Experience what it is like to have it. Return the cards to the box. Close the lid and put the box away until the next day.

Repeat each day for 30 days. Do not miss a day! See what happens! It will amaze you. The Universe/God will give you what your energy, frequency and amplitude allow. When your energy, frequency and amplitude are in alignment with Universal Law, you will be supported and served—always!

“Before you speak your words, you must pass through three doors. To move through the first door, you must  ask yourself ‘Is it honest?’ If yes, then move to the second door and ask, ‘Is it necessary?’ If yes, then move to the third door and ask yourself, ‘Is it kind?’ If yes, then you may speak….

~A saying from the Sufi religion

A New Day’s Lyric

By Amanda Gorman

May this be the day

We come together,

Mourning, we come to mend,

Withered, we come to weather,

Torn, we come to tend,

Battered we come to better.

Tethered by this year of yearning,

We are learning

That though we weren’t ready for this,

We have been readied by it.

We steadily vow that no matter

How we are weighed down,

We must always pave a way forward.

This hope is our door, our portal.

Even if we never get back to normal,

Someday we can venture beyond it,

To leave the known, and take the first steps.

So let us not return to what was normal,

But reach toward what is next.

What was cursed, we will cure.

What was plagued, we will prove pure.

Where we tend to argue, we will try to agree.

Those fortunes we forswore, now the future we foresee.

Where we weren’t aware, we are now awake;

Those moments we missed,

Are now these moments we make;

The moments we meet,

And our hearts, once all together beaten,

Now all together beat.

Come look up with kindness yet,

For even solace can be sourced from sorrow.

We remember, not just for the sake of yesterday,

But to take on tomorrow.

We heed this old spirit,

In a new day’s lyric,

In our hearts we hear it:

For auld lang syne, my dear,

For auld lang syne.

Be bold, sang Time this year,

Be bold, sang Time.

For when you honor yesterday,

Tomorrow ye will find.

Know what we’ve fought,

Need not be forgot nor for none.

It defines us, binds us as one,

Come over, join this day just begun.

For wherever we come together,

We will forever overcome.

With thanks to my good friends Arnie and Nancy for sharing this quote with us.

2022 – a time to begin again.

May we be kind to ourselves and to others.

With love to you all for a

Happy New Year!

WoW: Holidays

“Unconditional love is when you learn to accept others exactly the way they are and are willing to forgive the unforgivable. Doing so, is the greatest gift you can give yourself.”

I wish you the gift of true love this Holiday Season,


You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”



Too Good to be True?  

Whenever something wonderful has come into your life, have you ever felt like it’s just too good to be true? A new love relationship, a sudden windfall of money, a new job that seemed to “just appear”? You hold your breath, you look around and wait for the shoe to drop. Unconsciously, we even sometimes sabotage it, reject it or limit the blessing bestowed upon us.  

I wonder why that is? Do we think we’re unworthy to receive it? Or do we think it should go to someone else besides us? Are we afraid to let it in because if we do, then we might lose it and in order to avoid the potential pain of the loss, we never really allow ourselves to completely receive it? Why is there something within us that wants to reject this gift? Why is the sheer joy of abundance sometimes so difficult to receive?  

Is there some part of us that feels undeserving? Yet, who are we to say who is/isn’t deserving? The universe always seeks balance, and this balance adjusts, shifts and plays itself out over many lifetimes. It is of such a magnitude that we, with our finite minds, cannot even begin to understand what is ultimately fair.  

If, however, we are willing to trust life’s process, then when a gift comes our way, we can understand that we are meant to have it. To accept the great abundance of the universe, we must let go of our ego-fears and self-righteousness. Who are we to turn away a gift when it is given? Accepting it with joy and thanksgiving aligns us with the infinite power of universal energy… all that ever was and all that ever will be… eternity.  

My realization and acceptance that abundance is “meant for me”, brings me joy, and joy leads me to pure gratitude. When we say “yes” to the universe, our hearts open and fill with love. There is no place else to go after that except to humbly say, “thank you.”

“She who does not guide herself according to higher principles, who has no idea, no convictions – such a person is a mere article of the world’s furniture – a thing moved, instead of a living and moving being – an echo, not a voice.”

Henri Frederic Amiel

It’s OK to Say NO!

Which of the following best describes you?

Are you a people pleaser? Do you feel guilty if you aren’t doing what others ask of you? Are you a natural born “helper”? Will you do anything for people to like you? Do you want to be known as a really “good” person? Is saying “no” REALLY, REALLY hard for you? Are you afraid doing so might hurt your relationships with others or affect how they think of you?  Do you think that saying “no” – to have your needs be more important than helping others – somehow seems selfish?


Are you a creative, spontaneous person who just LOVES to try new things and always has lots of projects going on at one time? Do you find yourself having difficulty finishing what you start? Do you take on more than you can handle? Is your plate often overloaded with things to do? Is saying “no” REALLY, REALLY hard for you? Are you afraid you’ll miss something if you turn down new and different things to do?


Are you Ms./Mr. Super Human, seeing yourself as capable of taking on more than anyone else? Are you competitive and an over achiever? Do you have trouble admitting maybe you are a normal human like everyone else who has limits? Are you afraid that doing so would project you as weak or incapable? Will you do anything to win?

Are you afraid that if you don’t always lead the pack, somehow, you’ll be lessened as the person you hope people think you are? When met with a challenge, is saying “no” REALLY, REALLY hard for you?


Do you have to be perfect? Do you have to have everything just “so” and spend endless hours on getting everything right? Do you get caught up in the details and lose track of where you were originally headed? Do you have difficulty making decisions? Are you afraid that if you don’t try to be perfect or do perfect work, you might make a mistake or be seen as “wrong”? When asked to move on and not to get mired down in the details, do you find it REALLY, REALLY difficult to say “no” to those little things you think have to be done to be “perfect”?

Perhaps one of the reasons we have such a difficult time saying “no” is because we simply don’t take the time to identify what is truly important to us. In our personal lives, we don’t identify our priorities, the things we absolutely must have to feel whole, complete, balanced, free, alive, joyful and peaceful. Or in a business situation, we don’t identify what is essential to do a job in excellence vs. perfection. 

To be successful in business, it’s sometimes critical to move quickly, and there’s no time for everything to be perfect, nor is it necessary. Sometimes “good enough” is good enough!

There are many things to which we can devote our lives, and they can all have an alluring level of importance. For example, taking care of our children, fulfilling our career objectives, being a contributor to the needs within our communities are many worthy draws on our time and energy. But it’s important we identify what are simply good things to do and what are things we must do to be whole complete human beings. To achieve the latter, you can improve your ability to get back in control of your life very simply. Begin by knowing how to say, “no”.

1) Make a list of the things YOU must have to be a physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy woman. Never mind the wants and needs of anyone else in this exercise. Simply list what YOU want and need – honestly! Admit you have a finite amount of time and energy. Accept you’re a human being and you must take care of yourself. Some of the things you list may involve caring for others, but be careful to not overdue. The activity must not drain or deplete you. If the request doesn’t fit into this list, consider the importance of saying “no”.

2) Say “no” immediately and clearly. If you know the “no” must be made, don’t delay, don’t put it off. There is no need to go into a lengthy explanation. Simply say “no”.

3) Explain why you are saying “no”. Be honest. Don’t avoid or beat around the bush. Just tell the truth as to why you are declining the request. Do it simply, without any negative emotion. It takes courage to say “no”, but do it kindly and with consideration. Be straightforward, calm and maintain an even voice. A simple, “No, I won’t be able to do that right now”, should do the trick.

4) Be attentive to your inclination to give to others at the expense of your own wants and needs. Explore possible alternatives that will create a win/win solution.

5) Sometimes you need to say “no” more than once, especially to people who are used to always hearing you say “yes”. They may not want to accept your answer at first. Let them know you are firm, but do so with measured emotions.

Be who you are. Be true to yourself. That’s the best gift you could ever give to anyone and it’s the best way to take care of yourself. If you want to be admired and loved, show people you respect your own wants and needs. If you’re a person who takes on more than you can handle, STOP! Get back in the driver’s seat of your life. Don’t get caught up in over achieving.

Saying “no” will give you the balance you need to bring health and well-being back into your life. And if you have perfectionist tendencies, say “no” to your inclination to be perfect, lighten up and go with the flow, and remember…

It’s OK to say NO!

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.

– Marcus Aurelius

Choose To Be Grateful – It Will Make Your Life Happier

As we approach Thanksgiving, we reflect on what it means to be grateful. Over all my years of working with thousands of people, I have found that we all seem to have a varying natural capacity to experience gratitude. Some people are upbeat and positive, and tend to see the good in everything. When there is a problem, they embrace it and see opportunity for growth and learning. They tend to be happy people.

Others focus on the negative. They operate from judgment and fear, and they struggle mightily with overcoming the dark side that seems to follow them everywhere. They are not so happy. Yet, regardless of one’s inclination to live life one way or the other, I have also come to realize that attitudes and life approaches are truly a choice and anyone, regardless of their circumstances, can fill their hearts with gratitude if they choose to.

This year, let’s be grateful for useless things. It is relatively easy to be thankful for the most important and obvious parts of life—a happy marriage, healthy kids or for friends and family. But truly happy people find ways to give thanks for the little, insignificant trifles.

Ponder the impractical joy in Gerard Manley Hopkins’s poem “Pied Beauty”:

“Glory be to God for dappled things—

For skies of couple-colour as a brinded cow;

For rose-moles all in stipple upon trout that swim;

Fresh-firecoal chestnut-falls; finches’ wings;

Landscape plotted and pieced — fold, fallow, and plough;

And all trades, their gear and tackle and trim.”

Be honest: When was the last time you were grateful for the spots on a trout? But seriously, think of the small, seemingly insignificant things you experience—the smell of fall in the air, the fragment of a song that reminds you of when you were a child, the sight of geese flying south against a grey sky… and give thanks.

This Thanksgiving, let’s not just express gratitude only when we feel it. Let’s give thanks, especially when we don’t feel it. Let’s not wait for the moment of emotional “authenticity” to express our bliss. Let’s choose to find it in everything and everyone around us… even in Uncle Harry, who’s had a bit too much to drink!

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!

The following was spoken by Gyasi Ross, a Native American from the Blackfeet Nation, an author, attorney, rapper, speaker and storyteller. He’s the author of two books: I Don’t Know Much About Indians and How to Say I Love You in Indian. He is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, Gawker and Indian Country Today.

Chew On This at Thanksgiving

The mythology of Thanksgiving is closely related to the mythology of America. The mythology of what White Americans like to see of themselves—White settlers coming to a strange land in good faith, bringing something of value that enriches the people who are already there.

The Natives also bring something of immense value, an equal exchange that closely mimics the mythology of White people. It is how America wants to see itself.

The truth of Thanksgiving is, of course, much different. The truth is the Pilgrims did not bring turkey, sweet potato pie, or cranberries to Thanksgiving. They were broke, they were broken. Their hands were out. They were begging. They brought nothing of value, but they were fed. They were schooled in learning how to survive in this new land. It makes sense that Thanksgiving is a time when there is much for Americans to be thankful for.

But what I’m still trying to figure out is what the Indigenous people received in value. Instead of bringing stuffing and biscuits, those settlers brought genocide and violence, and that genocide and violence is still on the menu.

State sponsored violence against Indigenous people is common place, and violent White supremacy is subsidized from Mike Brown to Rene Davis, to Bryanna Taylor to Eric Garner. Indigenous Black people are also still being murdered by those paid to protect us.

From Ahmaud Arbery to Trayvon Martin, White Americans are still killing Native and Black Americans, with no fear of reprisal. They brought channel slavery to Africans and Native people, and that still happens through the prison industrial complex that imprisons the descendants of enslaved African and Natives in far disparate numbers. That is the reality of it.

Many Americans are still waiting for White Americans to bring something back of value. Still waiting for White Americans to match the mythology of Thanksgiving, freedom, justice, equality, reparations for 2.5 billion acres of stolen Native American land, reparations for 246 years of stolen labor, and reparations for stealing Native children.

Stop the killing! It’s still happening. Stop the theft! It’ still happening. Return the land. Match the mythology. Then, and only then, we can all be thankful.

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“Everything I Need to Know, I Learned from Noah’s Ark”

ONE: Don’t miss the boat.

TWO: Remember that we are all in the same boat!

THREE: Plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the Ark.

FOUR: Stay fit. When you’re 60 years old, someone may ask you to do something really big.

FIVE: Don’t listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.

SIX: Build your future on high ground.

SEVEN: For safety’s sake, travel in pairs.

EIGHT: Speed isn’t always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.

NINE: When you’re stressed, float awhile.

TEN: Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs who were committed and willing to learn; the Titanic was built by professionals–who thought they already knew how.

Author Unknown

“Those who must be in control are the ones most out of control because they are controlled by the need to be in control.”

Lessons from the Stream

 She was angry and frustrated. Nothing was working out the way she wanted. She was in an unpleasant struggle with one of her co-workers who refused to share valuable information with her in a timely fashion, her boss never seemed to have time for her, the company kept changing directions and the work she did yesterday was no longer needed today.

Her kids wouldn’t listen to her. No matter what she said, they kept talking back to her (if they talked at all), leaving their bikes cluttering up the driveway and doing every other annoying thing possible. She regularly woke up in the middle of the night, trying to figure out how she could get control. She calculated ways she would pre-empt her co-worker, how she would corner her boss and make her listen to her, and what she’d do to punish her kids to force them to behave.

“I’ve got to dominate these situations before they completely overpower me,” she thought.

Then she heard a voice, “See the leaf in the water. It flows easily with the current to wherever the stream takes it. Control is an illusion. It’s seductive because it gives the illusion of power. It gives you something to hold on to. It becomes addictive. It’s hard to give up even when it’s not working. If you are in the process of life and living, then you can’t proceed on your life journey until you let go of whatever is holding you back. Perhaps the problem is that you are trying to get control. Why don’t you just let go of it?”

“But if I’m not in control, then I can’t get the results I want. I can’t get to where I want to go! How can I possibly win when I let go of control?” she said. “I’ve got to show them I’m important or they’ll all keep running over me.”

“That’s the illusion. Look again at the water going by,” said the voice and then began a story.

There once was a stream that flowed around many obstacles until it arrived at a desert. The stream tried to cross, but the waters disappeared into the sand. It tried and tried, but to no avail. Then the stream heard a voice.

It said, “The wind crosses the desert, so can the stream.”

The stream protested. “That’s because the wind can fly, but I cannot.”

The voice responded, “Let yourself be absorbed by the wind.”

The stream rebelled. “If I do that, then I will no longer be a stream. I want to remain the same stream I am today.”

“Not possible,” said the voice. “Anything that is living is always changing. However, your essence—your spirit—is forever. When you let go and let yourself be carried by the wind, then soon you will become a stream again, but you will be a much smarter and stronger stream, for you will have learned how to cross the desert. Perhaps you’ve forgotten to trust the power of your spirit’s connection to the ultimate power—all that ever was and all that ever will be.”

The stream remembered dimly that long, long ago, it had once been held in the wind. With great trepidation, (it’s difficult to let go of your self-importance) it let go and the most amazing thing happened. Its vapor rose into the arms of the wind, which carried it across the desert and then let it fall as rain in the mountains. There it became a stream again. It was a different stream, but it was a stream that flowed freely past all the obstacles that came its way.

Go with the flow. Be the stream. Find a way. It is always there if you are clear about getting to the other side. You will get there in ways you had never imagined. And that, my friends, is true power.

The support that’s available to us to find solutions rarely looks like we think it’s supposed to.

Why do we feel the need to control? Why do we want to feel more powerful than others? Why are we afraid to let go? Why are we afraid we will lose something if we do?

Perhaps it’s because we have lost sight of the fact we don’t need to get power, because we already are power, no matter where we are, or what is happening around us. If the definition of power is “the ability to declare and manifest”, then each of has within us an immense power and capability to generate, create and cause.

We have so much more natural control to direct our present and our future than we ever realize. If this is true, then we must always be cognizant of how we use this power and the impact it has on ourselves and others. There are two ways we can use power. We can use power to:


  • Overpower: To manipulate, compete, dominate, undermine, and control situations, as well as other people. This kind of power eventually creates separation, hurt, and relationship/team failure. It is based on fear. Fear I’ll lose something…I’ll lose myself… what I already have… the success I already have… relationships, advantages, etc. Yet, we cannot get from first base to second unless we completely let go of where we are. Yes, there are risks, but you will never make it to home plate if you don’t go for it!


  • Empower: To support, encourage, acknowledge, appreciate, brainstorm, contribute and share. Using power in this way creates connection, unity, caring and team success. Empowerment is based on love and acceptance. If you choose this direction, like the stream, a way will appear. Support and assistance you never dreamed would have come your way will be available to you and it frequently won’t look like you expected. The solutions are right in front of you, but you can’t see them because your limiting beliefs are in the way. To find them, you must let go.


Remember, there are prices we must pay to have cooperative, aligned teams/relationships/families that are effectively working together. We can’t control everyone and everything. Nor can we just sit back and glide. We need to be consciously aware and pay attention to our actions and reactions, and the way we use our power. We need to consciously “go with the flow” and take full responsibility for the results. If something isn’t working, we need to let go of trying to control it. Look for ways to influence through love and acceptance.

Just as there are prices for the way you use your power, so too are there endless payoffs: peace, caring, support, friendship, productivity, creativity and success for everyone—your work, your family, friends and YOU! A true Win/Win!


Be in control of letting go of control.



“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

Thornton Wilder

She No Longer Knew Who He was

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80s, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9 AM. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone could see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On exam, it had healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I inquired as to her health. He told me she had been there for a while and she was a victim of Alzheimer’s disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was and hadn’t recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, “And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?”

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.”

Author Unknown