Archive for January, 2010

“The first duty of love is to listen.”
~Paul Tillich

“Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question?. . .What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur’s closest friend!

Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur.

He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur’s question thus:

What a woman really wants, she answered….is to be in charge of her own life.

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened.

The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.

Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day….or night?

Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?

What would YOU do?”

(Author Unknown)

Stay tuned…discover what Sir Lancelot chose in next week’s WOW! (Words of Wisdom). . .

Submitted to me by my good friend, Jim Irvine

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Impossible only means that you haven’t found the solution yet”



If you put a buzzard in a pen that is 6 feet by 8 feet and is entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of its ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight from the ground with a run of 10 to 12 feet. Without space to run, as is its habit, it will not even attempt to fly, but will remain a prisoner for life in a small jail with no top.

The ordinary bat that flies around at night, a remarkable nimble creature in the air, cannot take off from a level place.  If it is placed on the floor or flat ground, all it can do is shuffle about helplessly and, no doubt, painfully, until it reaches some slight elevation from which it can throw itself into the air. Then, at once, it takes off like a flash.


A bumblebee, if dropped into an open tumbler, will be there until it dies, unless it is taken out.  It never sees the means of escape at the top, but persists in trying to find some way out through the sides near the bottom…  It will seek a way where none exists, until it completely destroys itself.” (Author Unknown)


In many ways, we are like the buzzard, the bat, and the bumblebee. We struggle about with all our problems and frustrations, never realizing that all we have to do is look for the openings and opportunities that are right in front of us. More committed to being right about the way we have always done things than we are to finding solutions to problems, we stay stuck, prisoners in our own jails of limited thinking.


How often do couples travel down the same path of arguing and fighting over something they disagree about? Rather than step back and look for another way to communicate, they just keep ramming the same point home, neither listening to the other and solutions are never found. Stalemates become acceptable. Being right becomes more important than having it work. Everyone loses.


How often do companies institute a new program, system or process that will save time, energy and money, but employees resist the change because it requires them to get out of the old patterns that they’re stuck in and do things differently. The new system that could make everyone’s life easier and more efficient eventually gets bypassed by the old familiar ways. Nothing is improved. There is no growth for the company or for the individuals within it and everyone loses.


How do you stay stuck and trapped when you could be flying free? What are some limiting beliefs and behaviors you’re operating with that if you changed them would open up a whole new world for you? What are the solutions that are right in front of your nose that you haven’t looked for or been willing to see? They are there. I can promise you that. But, Ms./Mr. Buzzard, Bat and Bee, YOU must be willing to look for them. You were given wings. Don’t waste them. Be creative. Look in places you’ve never gone before, discover ALL the choices that lie before you, explore avenues you’ve never thought of, talk to people who think differently than you, seek new methods, approaches and ideas and you’ll be flying soon!.


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