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19 Things That Took Me 50Years to Learn

By Dave Barry

1. Never under any circumstances take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

  1. If you had to identify in one word the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be “meetings.”
  1. There is a very fine line between “hobby” and “mental illness.”
  1. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them.
  1. And when God, who created the entire universe with all of its glories, decides to deliver a message to humanity, He WILL NOT use, as His messenger, a person on cable TV with a bad hairstyle.
  1. You should not confuse your career with your life.
  1. No matter what happens, somebody will find a way to take it too seriously.
  1. When trouble arises and things look bad, there is always one individual who perceives a solution and is willing to take command. Very often, that individual is crazy.
  1. Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.
  1. Never lick a steak knife.
  1. Take out the fortune before you eat the cookie.
  1. The most powerful force in the universe is gossip.
  1. You will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we observe daylight savings time.
  1. You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.
  1. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age eleven.
  1. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that deep down inside we ALL believe we are above average drivers.
  1. The main accomplishment of almost all organized protests is to annoy people who are not in them.
  1. A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.
  1. Your friends love you anyway.


(And my assistant, Heidi, would like to add: 20. Never put on Chapstick before brushing a Bernese Mountain dog 
outside on a windy day.)


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“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.”

Thomas Aquinas

This past year, seven of my dearest friends from college came to visit me at my home for a week. Three others could not make it for personal reasons and some were not there because they are no longer gracing this earth.

This year in June will be our 50th reunion. While thinking about friendship and what it means, I came to discover that the Celtic symbol for “Friendship” and for “Forever” are often used interchangeably.

How true that is.

Close friend. Best friend. Childhood friend. Intimate friend. Trusted friend. Beloved friend. Whether you use adjectives or different words, few could deny the nearly infinite meaning in such a simple word.

Friends are special people. We can’t pick our family, and we’re sorely limited in the number of them at any rate. Society and mores (and often our own conscience) dictate we select a single mate. But our friends can be as diverse and infinite as the adjectives we choose. Our friends, in a very real sense, reflect the choices we make in life.

Below are six things to remember about friendship (written by Luminata).

1. True friends honor their words with actions.

Love is a verb, and if someone wants you to know how much you really mean to them, and how important your presence and existence is in their life, they will prove it to you not just by using all kind of beautiful and colorful words, but also by making sure they honor all those words with actions. People who love and care about you, true friends, they honor their words with actions.

“The focus should not be on talking. Talk is cheap. It must be on action.”

Howard Berman

2. True friends find time for you in their busy schedule.

People who tell you they love you but they rarely make themselves available to you, know nothing about love, for that’s not true love. If you really love someone, and if the relationship you have with them matters to you, then you will make yourself available to these people. You will find a way to spend quality time with them. True friends find time for you in their busy schedule.

“Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless… Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is ‘T-I-M-E.'”

Rick Warren

3. True friends laugh with you, but they also cry with you.

I once heard someone say that when you laugh, the whole world laughs with you, but when you cry, you cry alone. And I don’t agree with this. From personal experience I can tell you there are people in this world who know how to truly love.

People who will be there for you no matter what. People who will laugh with you, but who will also cry with you. People who will not leave you alone especially in those dark and painful moments when their love and support is what you need the most. True friends laugh with you, but they also cry with you.

“If one day you feel like crying… call me. I don’t promise that I will make you laugh, but I can cry with you. If one day you want to run away, don’t be afraid to call me. I don’t promise to ask you to stop, but I can run with you. If one day you don’t want to listen to anyone, call me. I promise to be there for you, but I also promise to remain quiet. But… If one day you call and there is no answer… come fast to see me. Perhaps I need you.”

Robert J. Lavery

4. True friends remind you of who you truly are underneath it all.

No matter how many times you “fail” at becoming this perfect, kind and loving person you aspire to become, and no matter how many times you behave in crazy, negative, unhealthy and toxic ways, both toward yourself and toward those around you, the people who truly love you will never blame and criticize you for your weaknesses. They will never condemn you for being human and for having something that we all have – a dark side.

True friends rekindle your inner spirit by constantly reminding you of who you truly are underneath it all. Because they love and adore you, and because they can see beyond all your tantrums, doubts, fears, darkness and insecurities, they will constantly remind you of who you truly are underneath it all, helping you tap into your inner beauty, wisdom, greatness and power. And helping you to live your life from a place of truth, light and love and integrity, no longer from a place of fear and doubt.

“If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

5. True friends give you permission to be yourself.

Your true friends, the people who truly love you, will never try to control you, to change you or to convince you that you should be anything other than yourself. They give you the permission to just be. To be yourself, unapologetically, loving you for you, and not for who they think you should be. True friends give you permission to be yourself.

“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”

Jim Morrison

6. True friends make you better, not bitter. 

True friends bring out the best in you. They make your life sweeter with their words, their presence, their actions and behaviors. They enhance you, they enhance your life, and they make you want to become a better person.

True friends inspire you to live your life to your full potential, to be better not bitter, and to constantly look for the good in the bad, and the beautiful in the ugly. Always remember, true friends make you better, not bitter…

“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.”

Baltasar Gracian

 These six things were written by Luminata

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