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Decision the virtue of the


 This has been a good time to rest and relax with our families and friends and give thanks for all the goodness we have been blessed to receive as well as the hard lessons learned. As you prepare for a big year ahead, also take some time to focus on who you declare yourself to be, what you stand for and what you deeply care about.

The New Year will bring with it many opportunities and challenges and our world needs to hear your voice as we work to restore reason and respect for all life on our precious planet.Martha signature (3)

Thank you to my good friend Christina Norris for sharing 
this great quote from Frank Lloyd Wright.

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Feeling Unraveled?

 Whenever we receive traumatic news, like the sudden diagnosis of a disease, the breakup of a close relationship, the death of a loved one or the results of the last election, we are thrown into shock, deep grief and sadness, and our psyche generally goes through several steps before recovery takes place.

We can be traveling along a normal functioning, relatively even, predictable path and when bad news hits, it feels like the bottom just dropped out from under us and we descend into a free fall of emotions. It is very real for the person going through it and the process needs to be respected. At some point, however, we pull out of it and take constructive action. After the last election, perhaps you experienced these steps as I did. . .

1)    Shock and Denial

  • Avoidance
  • Grief and sadness
  • Confusion
  • Fear
  • Numbness
  • Blame

2)    Anger

  • Frustration
  • Anxiety
  • Irritation
  • Embarrassment
  • Shame

3)    Depression and Detachment

  • Overwhelmed
  • Blahs
  • Lack of energy
  • Helplessness

4)    Dialog and Bargaining

  • Reaching out to others
  • Desire to tell one’s story
  • Struggle to find meaning for what has happened

5)    Acceptance

  • Exploring options
  • A new plan in place

(Does not mean to endorse or condone – but to merely accept “It is what it is”)

At this point in the grieving process, we have reached a state of mind that directs us to return to a meaningful life. We regain our personal power and once again feel secure in our self-esteem and ability to direct and influence the future. We reconnect with what is meaningful to us and are empowered to take action with confidence, clarity and commitment.

The result of this past election was a severe shock for countless millions here in the US and for billions of people across the globe. Every day, I talk with people who have been through the steps above and are now truly desperate to do something. Like them, I will exercise my rights and moral obligation to stand for my values and the values on which our country was founded.

Please don’t tell me “the people have spoken” and to “just let it go”. Yes, the people have spoken, but they have not been heard. Trump lost the popular vote by over 2.5 million votes. He has become President only because of the electoral college. But those are the rules of the game and because the system can’t be changed without a Constitutional amendment, I accept that.

He may be the President, but he will never be MY President. There is not one fiber in my being that can ignore his vile, abhorrent character and the pain it inflicts on others and I intend to have my voice heard on behalf of human decency, human rights and freedom.

My disdain and utter disgust for him has little to do with politics or issues because who the heck knows what he stands for other than his own self-aggrandizement? In fact, I hope he wakes up to realize his rabid campaign rhetoric, multitudinous lies and vast “promises” are so outrageous and dangerous that if followed, could cause major destruction world-wide. I hope if and when he sees this, he will connect with some level of common sense and in that vein, will be successful, very successful, because our lives depend on it.

It’s his despicable character and the way he plays the game in order to win that I abhor. I cannot and will not abide him or any bully who wins by deceiving, demeaning and degrading others. I will NEVER accept anyone who wins by playing into peoples’ hatred and fear in order to manipulate them like fools for his own advantage.

I will NEVER support or endorse, much less vote for, anyone who believes “The End Justifies the Means” in order to selfishly get what he wants – the power of the Presidency for his own self-glorifying ego trip..

Hear me loud and clear, he and anyone who operates that way will never EVER represent ME or the values of the America I love.

And to those of you who voted for Trump, and some of you are friends I love very, very much, what was so important to you that you were able to condone or overlook his abhorrent, unethical way of treating people?

I know many of you are good people. But how does your conscience allow you to so readily bypass the integrity of the basic, moral standards I know you have?

I am not judging you or blaming you, but I am truly interested in hearing why you think that Winning at Whatever the Cost to someone else, (Win/Lose and The End Justifies the Means context), is worthy of your support?

I think it’s important not only for me to hear but for you to realize, because in the process, an awful lot of people were hurt, demeaned and disregarded as objects of ridicule.

In my next WoW, I intend to list some actions we can take to support equal rights for all humans and a future free of a Trump tyranny. In the meantime, I submit the following article written by Charles M. Blow, Op-Ed Columnist for the NYT.

He eloquently states how I feel and what I think much better than I ever could. He wrote it the day before Thanksgiving after Trump went to the Times imploring, “Can’t we all just get along?”

No, Trump, We Can’t Just Get Along

Charles M. Blow NOV. 23, 2016

Donald Trump schlepped across town on Tuesday to meet with the publisher of The New York Times and some editors, columnists and reporters at the paper.

As The Times reported, Trump actually seemed to soften some of his positions:

He seemed to indicate he wouldn’t seek to prosecute Hillary Clinton. But he should never have said he was going to do that in the first place.

He seemed to indicate he wouldn’t encourage the military to use torture. But he should never have said he would do that in the first place.

He said he would have an “open mind” on climate change. But that should always have been his position.

You don’t get a pat on the back for ratcheting down from rabid after exploiting that very radicalism to your advantage. Unrepentant opportunism belies a staggering lack of character and caring that can’t simply be vanquished from memory. You did real harm to this country and many of its citizens, and I will never – never – forget that.

As I read the transcript and then listened to the audio, the slime factor was overwhelming.
After a campaign of bashing The Times relentlessly, in the face of the actual journalists, he tempered his whining with flattery.

At one point he said:

“I just appreciate the meeting and I have great respect for The New York Times. Tremendous respect. It’s very special. Always has been very special.”

He ended the meeting by saying:

“I will say, The Times is, it’s a great, great American jewel. A world jewel. And I hope we can all get along well.”

I will say proudly and happily that I was not present at this meeting. The very idea of sitting across the table from a demagogue who preyed on racial, ethnic and religious hostilities and treating him with decorum and social grace fills me with disgust, to the point of overflowing. Let me tell you here where I stand on your “I hope we can all get along” plea:

You are an aberration and abomination who is willing to do and say anything – no matter whom it aligns you with and whom it hurts – to satisfy your ambitions.

I don’t believe you care much at all about this country or your party or the American people. I believe the only thing you care about is self-aggrandizement and self-enrichment. Your strongest allegiance is to your own cupidity.

I also believe much of your campaign was an act of psychological projection, as we are now learning that many of the things you slammed Clinton for are things of which you may actually be guilty.

You slammed Clinton for destroying emails, then Newsweek reported last month that your companies “destroyed emails in defiance of court orders.”

You slammed Clinton and the Clinton Foundation for paid speeches and conflicts of interest, then it turned out that, as BuzzFeed reported, the Trump Foundation received a $150,000 donation in exchange for your giving a 2015 speech made by video to a conference in Ukraine. You slammed Clinton about conflicts of interest while she was secretary of state, and now your possible conflicts of interest are popping up like mushrooms in a marsh.

You are a fraud and a charlatan. Yes, you will be president, but you will not get any breaks just because one branch of your forked tongue is silver.

I am not easily duped by dopes.

I have not only an ethical and professional duty to call out how obscene your very existence is at the top of American government; I have a moral obligation to do so.

I’m not trying to convince anyone of anything, but rather to speak up for truth and honor and inclusion. This isn’t just about you, but also about the moral compass of those who see you for who and what you are, and know the darkness you herald is only held at bay by the lights of truth.

It’s not that I don’t believe people can change and grow. They can. But real growth comes from the accepting of responsibility and repenting of culpability. Expedient reversal isn’t growth; it’s gross.

So let me say this on Thanksgiving: I’m thankful to have this platform because as long as there are ink and pixels, you will be the focus of my withering gaze.
I’m thankful I have the endurance and can assume a posture that will never allow what you represent to ever be seen as everyday and ordinary.

No, Mr. Trump, we will not all just get along. For as long as a threat to the state is the head of state, all citizens of good faith and national fidelity – and certainly this columnist – have an absolute obligation to meet you and your agenda with resistance at every turn.

I know this in my bones, and for that I am thankful.



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