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“Keep what is worth keeping and then, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”


Keep What Is Worth Keeping

They were solid, good, hard-working people, their life was simple and focused. Their best friends lived barely a wave away. I can see them now, my Dad in trousers, t-shirt and a hat as he worked on the farm and my Mom standing by the hot stove cooking something wonderful while; lawn mower in his hand, and dish-towel in hers.

It was the time for fixing things. A curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the oven door, the hem in a dress. Things they kept.

It was a way of life, and sometimes it made me crazy. All that re-fixing, eating, renewing, I wanted just once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things away meant you knew there’d always be more.

But then my mother died, and on that clear summer’s night, in the warmth of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn’t any more. Sometimes, what we care about most gets all used up and goes away …never to return. So . . . while we have it …it’s best we love it … and care for it …. and fix it when it’s broken … and heal it when it’s sick.

This is true …for marriage … and old cars … and children with bad report cards … dogs and cats with bad hips … and aging parents … and grandparents, aunts and uncles and friends. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.

In the middle of the consumer driven world of today, where we frequently trade in our iPhones, TVs and computers for the latest and greatest, it’s important to remember to keep what is worth keeping; things like a best friend who moved away or a classmate we grew up with. There are just some things that make life important, like people we know who are special … And so, we keep them close in heart and mind and spirit.

We keep the good memories… of times that warm our hearts, put a smile of our faces, and delight our spirit… and we keep the lessons learned from past choices we don’t want to repeat of things we did and said that we regret, or of those things we didn’t do and say we wish we had.

And all the rest . . . with a breath of kindness . . . we simply blow away . . . 

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