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Dearest Family, Friends and Colleagues,

Thank you to all for your texts and emails checking in with me with regards to the fires in Sonoma County. I truly appreciate your kind words of support and prayers!

Over 180,000 people have been evacuated from Sonoma County – including all of Healdsburg, so I am currently staying with friends further south out of the danger zone. I have both dogs with me and Bill the cat is with my daughter, Gabi. All are safe and sound.

I do not know when we will be allowed to return home as the fires continue and Highway 101 has now been shut-down from to Santa Rosa to all the northern areas where the fires are.

Wifi/Internet access is very limited for me, so please understand I may not get back to you in a timely fashion, should you email or text me.

I assure you we are all safe and sound. I am sending you all – and all those affected by these fires, my love, prayers, and good thoughts during this terrible time of fires, power & gas shut-offs and evacuations.

Please stay safe!

Sincerely,

Martha

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Not Everyone Will Like Us

Not Everyone Will Like Us

As much as it is a pleasant experience to be liked, the reality is not everyone will. Yet, how much time and energy do we sometimes waste, trying to get someone to like us? We adjust our personalities to suite others’ wants and needs, we laugh at things we don’t think are funny, we say what we think others want to hear, we are overly helpful to a fault and often at our own expense.

When we come to depend on the approval of others and measure our self-worth by their judgments, we lose our way. We lose ourselves.

Like tends to attract like and usually if someone doesn’t like us, it’s because they aren’t like us. They operate with a different energy, have distinctly different opinions or perspectives and see the world through a much different filter. What is important to us, may not be for them and what makes sense to them, may seem ludicrous to us.

This does not mean there is anything wrong with us or with them, it’s just that we are attracted to different things and people, and no matter what we do, they may still not like us. We could stand on our head, twiddle our thumbs and spit nickels and they still would not be attracted to us.

The same is true in reverse. We also may not like everyone we meet. I’m sure we can all think of someone we just don’t “fit in” with, or someone who rubs us the wrong way, annoys and frustrates us. We find ourselves judging and criticizing them as we try to change them to our likeness, hoping they will be more like the person we know they “should” be. Likewise, when we allow our disapproval of them and the way they think and act affect us in negative ways, we lose our own way. We lose ourselves.

However, if we allow others to think as they do about us without taking it personally, then we give them freedom to be themselves and we reclaim it for ourselves as well. When we accept others as they are without making them wrong and accept the differences, then we too, are set free to be whom we are.

Rather than try to shape ourselves into someone we aren’t or try to force someone to change to our liking, through acceptance, we can each move along our life’s path free to be ourselves and free to attract those who do vibrate with the same energy.

If we do this well, we will not only learn one of life’s greatest lessons, we will be a gift of love to all we meet.

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