“Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become…habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character.”

Margaret Thatcher


Our decisions in moments of great pressure and stressful situations truly express in great details about our actual personality. Look at the given image carefully and choose who you would help first. See what it has to say about you…just for fun!

  1. The Nurse

Laid back and casual by nature, your choice says that you are a positive and carefree person. The nurse needs the least amount of help in the image and so it suggests you saw her first.

You believe bad times are not permanent. You are quite jovial by nature.


  1. The Man with Crutches

This particular choice reveals your leadership skills. You noticed the hardship the man was going through in order to walk with a broken leg and so your instinct screamed at you to lend him support and comfort.

Practical and a leader from the very core, you are determined and sharp. Your decision to help him says a lot about your organized and strong personality.


  1. The Crying Baby

It is important to understand babies cry for multiple reasons and they do so to express their discomfort as they cannot explain their problems in any other way.

Your decision to help the crying child first shows you are an empathetic person who is caring and emotional. You are someone who has a protective and nurturing nature and feels the need to provide safety and comfort to all.

Your kind-heartedness and soft soul encourages you to reach out to anyone who is facing some kind of issues in life in order to help them. This however leads to you being manipulated and used for the benefits of others.

Your inert calm and peaceful aura and a deep sense of spirituality make people come to you to seek guidance, a helping hand or a listening ear. People believe that you can relieve them of their pains.

  1. The Old Lady

This choice of helping the old lady shows that you possess a very strong sense of morality and value system. Your ethics and priorities are straight. You are a traditional person who deeply cares about their culture, heritage and age-old values and teachings passed on from one generation to another.

You care deeply about the elderly and feel just how important they are to society and you don’t care about returns for your help as the act itself gives you joy, which definitely shows your altruistic side.

Found in: www.TruthInsideOfYou.com


“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light of meaning in the darkness of mere being.”

Carl Jung

Carl Jung, the famous Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst identified four major stages of personal growth. As we awaken and mature in our own development, we find that we move forward through these various stages and as we do, we become more comfortable in our own skin.

We become self-actualized, centered and grounded, are aligned with Universal energy. We are at one with all living things and live with trust and internal peace.

Each step of growth will affect the depth, breadth and quality of your life experience and ultimately, your ability to know what it means to be fully human.

Take a moment now to briefly examine your own thoughts, emotions, actions, reactions and inactions. As you review the different stages, what is your personal experience regarding these four stages of life? In which one do you currently find yourself?

1 The Athlete Stage

At this stage, we are mostly preoccupied with our physical appearance and with the way our body looks. We are sensitive with the way others look at us and see us. During this stage, we might stay for hours looking and admiring or criticizing our reflection in the mirror. Our body and our looks are the most important things to us – nothing else.

2 The Warrior Stage

During this stage, our main concern is to go out there and conquer the world, to do our best, be the best and get the very best, to do what warriors do, and act like warriors act.

This is a stage when we continually think of ways to get more than everybody else, a stage of comparison, of defeating those around us so we can feel better because we have achieved more because we are the warriors, the brave and successful ones. This might show up in a job position or in social climbing or material possessions.

3 The Statement Stage 

At this stage in your life, you realize what you have achieved so far is not enough for you to feel fulfilled, to be happy… you are now looking for ways to make a difference in the world, for ways to serve those around you.

You are now preoccupied with ways to start giving. You now realize what you chased after until now, money, power, possessions etc. will keep on appearing in your life, but you no longer attribute them the same value as before, you no longer are attached to those things because you are now in a different stage of your life, where you know there is more to life than that.

You receive them, you accept them and you are grateful, but you are ready to let go of them at any time. You are looking for ways to stop thinking only about yourself, of ways to receive and start focusing on living a life of service. All you want to do at this stage is give.

You now know that giving is receiving and it is time for you to stop being selfish, egotistical and self-centered and think of ways to help those in need, to leave this world better than it was when you arrived.

4 The Stage of the Spirit

According to Jung, this will be the last stage of our life, a stage where we realize none of those previous 3 stages are really who and what we are. We realize we are more than our body, we are more than our possessions, more than our friends, our country and so on.

We come to the realization that we are divine beings, spiritual beings having a human experience, and not human beings having a spiritual experience. We now know this is not our home, and we are not what we thought we are. We are in this world, but not of it.

We are now able to observe ourselves from a different perspective. We are now capable of stepping out of our own mind, out of our own body and understand who we really are, to see things the way they are. We become the observer of our lives. We realize we are not that which we notice, but the observer of what we notice.

More than 2500 years ago, the ancient Chinese philosopher, Lao-Tsu was trying to teach us just that. He was trying to show us how to get to the last stage of evolvement – the spiritual stage.

He asked:

“Can you step back from your own mind and understand all things? Can you give birth and nourish, without possessing? Can you achieve and accomplish without attachment? Can you act with no expectations, lead and not control?”

As you evolve and continue on your personal journey of self-discovery, I encourage you to participate in the Self Mastery programs, which are specifically designed to assist you to grow, and move up these steps in the most effective ways possible with guidance and support.

Learn how to live a balanced, joyful, fulfilling life in the here and now without causing or experiencing unnecessary turmoil or distress. Anyone who can harmonize with universal energy will be at peace with existence. These are the people whose lives are filled with “miracles”.

Life is a journey and we are never done. Never. It is only with your last breath that your growth here on earth is complete…and then another journey begins…


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“The value of life is not in its duration, but in its donation.”

There was a farmer who grew excellent quality corn. Every year he won the award for the best grown corn. One year, a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learned something interesting about how he grew it. The reporter discovered the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbors.

“How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbors when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?” the reporter asked.

“Why sir,” said the farmer, “Didn’t you know? The wind picks up pollen from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbors grow inferior corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbors grow good corn.”

So is with our lives… Those who want to live meaningfully and well must help enrich the lives of others, for the value of a life is measured by the lives it touches. And those who choose to be happy must help others find happiness, for the welfare of each is bound up with the welfare of all…

  • Call it power of collectivity…
  • Call it a principle of success…
  • Call it a law of life.


The fact is, none of us truly wins until we all win!!

Author Unknown


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Thank you to my good friend Bryan Peters who shared this story with us


You Start Dying Slowly…


You start dying slowly

if you do not travel,

if you do not read,

if you do not listen to the sounds of life,

if you do not appreciate yourself.


You start dying slowly when you kill your self-esteem…

when you do not let others help you.


You start dying slowly if you become a slave to your habits,

walking everyday along the same paths…

if you do not change your routine,

if you do not wear different colors

or you do not speak to those you don’t know.


You start dying slowly if you avoid feeling passion and its turbulent emotions,

those that make your eyes glisten and your heart beat fast.


You start dying slowly if you do not change your life when you are not satisfied with your job,

or with your love, or with your surroundings.


If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain,

if you do not go after your dream,

if you do not allow yourself, at least once in your lifetime,

to run away from sensible advice…


You start dying slowly.


Pablo Neruda

“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try accepting yourself exactly the way you are and see what happens!”


The Useless Eyebrows

Once upon a time, a person’s eyes, nose, and mouth had a meeting.

First the eyes said,

“We, the eyes, are of utmost importance to the body. Everything must be seen by us to know whether it is beautiful or not, big or small, tall or short. Without eyes, walking around will be very difficult. So we, the eyes, are very important. But we have been improperly placed under the eyebrows, which are of no use. It is just not fair!”

Next, the nose said,

“I, the nose, am the most important. Only I can distinguish a good smell from a foul odor. The act of breathing is also dependent on me. If I do not let the breath pass through, everybody will die. So I am the most important. As important as I am, I have been unfairly placed beneath the useless eyebrows. I am most unhappy.”

Then the mouth said,

“I am the most important part of the human body. I can speak; if not for me, there would not be any communication among people. I take in the food; if not for me, everybody would die of hunger. Such an important part as myself has been placed in the lowest part of the face. The useless eyebrows, however, have been put on the highest part of the face. This I cannot accept!”

After the others had spoken, the eyebrows spoke slowly,

“Please do not fight anymore. We, the eyebrows, are surely the most useless things; we admit defeat. We are willing to be placed below you.”

Having said this, the eyebrows settled down below the eyes. Unfortunately, the person no longer looked like a human being. Next, the eyebrows settled down below the nose. It was still horrible; it still did not look like a human being. Then the eyebrows settled down below the mouth. This looked even more ghastly!

The eyes, nose, and mouth huddled to discuss the situation again. They concluded it was best if the eyebrows returned to their original place on the face; it was the most appropriate spot for them.

When the eyebrows returned to their original spot, the appearance was once again that of a human being. Thus, we can see that what appears to be the most useless thing, may be perfect exactly the way it is.

Master Hsing-Yun

Be the perfect human being you are. By holding ourselves as imperfect beings, we can easily find fault with ourselves, make ourselves wrong and resort to self-blame and criticism.

Isn’t there enough of that negativity in the world? Wouldn’t it be better to accept ourselves the way we are and simply change what we choose to?

 There’s no need to be negative or heap bad feelings on ourselves. Let’s be gentle, kind and understanding of our humanness, while always seeking standards of excellence.

Thank you to my daughter, Gabi,
 for sharing this story with us.

Given the current state of our country’s cultural climate, I think it’s a good time to share this short story. I hope it disturbs you greatly. 

“When I was in seventh grade, our teacher put on a video for us to watch and asked us to take notes. Ten minutes in, she threw the lights on and shouted at Steven Webb Sladki, telling him he wasn’t taking notes and he should have been.

But the thing was, Steve was taking notes. I saw it, we all saw it. The teacher asked if anyone wanted to stand up for Steve. A few of us choked out some words of defense but we were immediately squashed.

Quickly, we were all very silent. Steve was sent to the principal’s office. The teacher came back in the room and said something like, ‘See how easy that was?’

We were reading ‘Anne Frank’. I started to understand.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that what you see with your own eyes isn’t happening.”

Author unknown

My fear is that for some of you, the message of this story will be but a blip on the screen of your daily activities…Do not allow yourself to slowly slide down the slippery slope of the dumbing-down of America.

Speak up! Don’t be silent when the human rights of others are being violated or when the human dignity of another is being demeaned or ridiculed.

Stand up! Demand that laws be followed (not innocent people). Be a person who interrupts injustice and prejudice when you see it, hypocrisy when you hear it, and ignorance when you experience it.  

YOU matter. YOU make a difference and YOUR voice makes a difference.

Thank you to my good friend Sharon Larkins-Pederson 
for this short story.




Brian Bilston


They have no need of our help.

So do not tell me

these haggard faces could belong to you or me

Should life have dealt a different hand,

We need to see them for who they really are

chancers and scroungers

Lay-abouts and loungers,

with bombs up their sleeves,

cut-throats and thieves

They are not

welcome here.

We should make them

go back to where they came from.

They cannot

share our food

share our homes

share our countries.

Instead let us

build a wall to keep them out.

It is not okay to say

these are people just like us.

A place should only belong to those who are born there.

Do not be so stupid to think that

The world can be looked at another way.

(Now read from the bottom to the top)

“I believe we are here on earth to help others. What others believe they are here for I don’t know.”


Thank you to my good friend, Sherry Edensmith for sharing this.